Managing Anger

yes..
when we get angry, we shout, we hit something, we shows off our attitude to the people around us, but if you give a second thought, those people who did not made you angry are innocent. Some might be good to letting you to vain your anger on them, but what if they people around you are also not in a good mood, had a quarell before hand too? Both will be having another fight, which serves to no good.

while as for me, i actually get very frustrated, stress, shows off my attitude to the people around me, and my eyes are often widely opened than usual.

so managing anger is very important.
There are also serveral ways that i used to control my anger:

1. Take in a big breath.
2. Clutch my fist
3. listen to music
4. write what happen in the diary
5. talk to someone close
6. hit something soft
7. tear waste paper

But my angryness always doesn't last long.. after i have vain all my anger out..
i'll take it as nothing had happen. And when time passed, i'll look up with the other party again to talk peacefully.
To me, time can cover everything, as long as we both already have no angryness with each other, then will be able to talk and analyse the situation together, and see what have i misunderstood, what did he do? and in the end, whose ever fault is it, i will apologise for what i have done, or apologise for the attitude that particular day.

following the COW analysis,
we should direct our anger at the right target.

like what i have said above, you might have another conflict with other people who has no relation to the stuation. so we must direct the anger correctly to the correct people.

stay clam and think for a while, what is the problem that actually started up the conflict.
try to ask yourself whether what i have said, is it reall true? where's the edvidence?

after that talk to the other party peacefully, example; "this belongs to me, how can you used it without my permission?! it's my birthday present! you idoit" try to change your phase to "this is a gift from my best friend, if you wants to borrow it, can you please ask me for permission before using it? because if it has gone missing, i'll be very sad"
Bad situation can turned into a not so bad situation.